There is a tendency in our society that parents prefer to say “yes” to their children’s request. Do you think it is beneficial for the growth of children? Different people have different opinions. Some will agree with it, while some will against it. For me, I think this is not a simple question, and we must view the problem in its entirety.
我们的社会有一种趋势，那就是父母偏向肯定孩子的要求。你认为这有利于孩子们的成长吗？不同的人有不同的看法。有些人会赞成，但是有些人则会反对。对我来说，我认为这不是一个简单的问题，我们要全面地看待。
For one thing, children need to be sure in their growing up. Children are so immature that they do not experience too much. Their inside hearts are very fragile. They need to be sure. When they are doing one thing, if they receive the affirmation from adults, they will be full of confidence and have the thought to have another try next time. But if the adult always deny their thought or behavior, they will lose their confidence, and even do not dare to have a try later. Thus, proper affirmation is good for the growth of children.
一方面，孩子们需要在被肯定的情况下成长。孩子们那么的不成熟，因为他们并没有经历过什么。他们的内心是很脆弱的。他们需要得到肯定。当他们在做一件事时，如果他们得到大人的肯定，他们会满怀信心，会有下次继续尝试的想法。但如果大人总是否认他们的想法或行为，他们就会失去信心，甚至以后都不敢再尝试。因此，适当的肯定对孩子的成长是好的。
For another, too much affirmation will spoil children. As the one child policy puts into effect, most parents will spoil their unique children more, because they are the apple of their parents’ eyes. If the adult always say “yes” to their children’s request, their children will become little princess and little prince. In the long term, they will form negative habit, such as, selfish, arrogant and so on. It is not good for the growth of children.
另一方面，过多的肯定会宠坏孩子。由于独生子女政策的实行，大多数父母都会更加宠爱他们唯一的孩子，因为他们是父母的掌上明珠。如果大人总是首肯孩子们的请求，他们的孩子会成为小公主和小皇帝。从长期来看，他们会形成不良的习惯，例如，自私，自大等等。这是不利于儿童的成长。
To sum up, green light all the way for children is not always right. Adults should figure it out when should say “yes” and when should say “no”. They can’t always say yes or no to their children.
综上所述，对孩子们一路红灯并不总是正确的。大人应该弄清楚什么时候该说同意，什么时候该反对。他们不能总是支持或者反对他们的孩子。
